Most people enter the divorce process thinking their case has to be handled a certain way and that the lawyer will dictate the process. Lawyers will tell you the way they want to proceed or how it normally goes, but the truth is that your case does not have to be handled in one particular way.
Before you even talk with an attorney about an impending divorce, you should have a good understanding of the options that are available to you. Any lawyer you talk with before you’re really prepared is going to steer you toward what they are good at, and not necessarily what is best for your type of divorce.
There are a great many issues that fall under the legal umbrella of divorce and family law, and all of them require an experienced attorney who has had years of practice in that specific field. Of course, everyone usually thinks about divorce, annulments, and separations as being the primary focus of the family law, but there are many other components to divorce and family law as well.
If you had to re-create the wheel and set up a system for divorcing parties–dividing up their property and debts, and developing a time-sharing arrangement for their children–would your first thought be to send the parties to a person neither party has ever met and authorize that person to make all of the decisions on how to divide their things and split time with their children?