Know Your Options Before You Are Left With Just One
If you had to re-create the wheel and set up a system for divorcing parties–dividing up their property and debts, and developing a time-sharing arrangement for their children–would your first thought be to send the parties to a person neither party has ever met and authorize that person to make all of the decisions on how to divide their things and split time with their children? Would you set this process in a formal, courtroom setting which will require numerous hearings and a possible trial to get everything settled? Sounds a little crazy right?
That process is just what a traditional, or litigated divorce, does. In a traditional/litigated divorce, while the parties are encouraged to work together to reach a resolution if a universal agreement cannot be made and ultimately the parties cannot agree, it is up to the judge to decide. The judge is tasked with sticking to the letter of law, with emotional issues and hurt feelings aside.
If the litigated divorce does not sound right for you, there are other options.